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Posted on 09.26.05 by joy @ 7.18pm
Earlier this year, wifey and I made a short video for Z a few days before he was born. I guess we wanted him to know how a little of his parents before he was born and that we were simply, ecstatically awaiting his arrival. Now I hope to extend and share this process by writing a periodic short note to Zubin. And so here is the first: Dear Zubin, At 7 months you have brought us a simple joy and happiness we could not have known otherwise. Your burgeoning personality and growing mobility are scarily impressive. Your mother and I have our hearts broken every morning leaving you and then reforged when we see you again in the evening. On the topic of mother, I am convinced that you have the best mother in the world, ever. We will talk about her more in some ensuing communique, but know this: she has brought me/us to a higher existence by sacrificing and giving more than I thought humanly possible. Every morning she brings you from your nursery to our bed to spend an hour before waking near you. When you are able, give nothing short of all your love to her. With love, Your Dad Filed under: Parental fawning and Random ruminations Comments: None Related Posts:
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Posted on 09.26.05 by joy @ 3.45pm
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Posted on 09.22.05 by joy @ 4.19pm
An article in the New York Times illuminating the increasing concern of civic conservationists about premium strollers blocking access to “..products you want to get to” in stores also brought forth the age old conflict between those who multiply and those who maintain.
This is an interesting topic for dads, because as they go forward, becoming more involved in the siring of the young, we face this conflict that mothers and non-mothers have faced forever. In the classic ladies’ version of this engagement of ideals, mothers inevitably occupy the high-ground and have better ammunition. Working moms, alpha moms, reborn stay at home moms, mothers have gone forward and segmented their success. On the other side of the battle, things are a little sparse. Spinster magazine anyone? I thought that fathers would fall out in a different sort of arrangement, but it is remarkably similar. In the boy’s version the slight twist it that, there is a palpable sense of desertion on both sides. A new father defects from his cadre of lads and the lads in turn leave him to his newly formed team. I became aware of this in a discussion with a long-time friend where he referred to Zubin as “something I would always have between me and my boys”. Umm…ok. This jives well with the growing trend of “involved” dads who provide more than just supportive input in the rearing process of the child. You have to grow your young talent as your old team starts losing its cohesion. Now I am all for choice of lifestyle. Trust me, if you do not want a wife, do not get married, and if you do not want kids, keep it in check. And there really is no moral imperative to reproduce these days. But on the facts, trying to maintain a family is larger resource drain than being single. So the magazines, the gear, this site it is all a testament to the break that parents need vis-à-vis the childfree. Frankly I challenge anyone who thinks that doing some form of the wife/kid thing is the easy route. It WILL kick your ass. In the Times story (which on second blush seems like a thinly veiled product placement) refers to “Baby Bulldozers” making public places difficult for non-parents. Well, expect more of it. With “alpha-moms” teaming up with “involved” dads, the SUV stroller is going to be knocking over anyone without the proper gear. So to the listless lads and the spinsters, I say: help push this thing, sack up and get one of your own or get fuck out of the way bitches. Filed under: Parenting 101 and Random ruminations Comments: None Related Posts:
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Posted on 09.22.05 by joy @ 1.44am
I have now upgraded the site to run the most recent PostNuke 0.76 (I am a glutton for punishment, I know). I have also used this opportunity to update the look of the site using a theme designed by Mark West. Very web-conformist and should be familiar to most. I will be working the kinks out in the next few days. Filed under: Site Updates Comments: None Related Posts:
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Posted on 09.13.05 by joy @ 9.56pm
Gizmodo has written up the Buzz as the technocrat’s choice in offspring mobility. They’ve also issued a challenge to US makers: make a dude’s stroller. A nice thought, but the marketing economics outside of the US coasts seem frail in the face of the puritanical separation of the sexes that persists in the heartland. And then there is the post-Sex in the City hyperfeminization of all things womanly; which probably means that marketing and branding baby products for men will have to wait. Sorry SAHDs.
On another note: Coming soon, Quinny Zapp vs. MacLaren Triumph. The battle of the foldable pocket rockets! A side-by-side comparison and photo pictorial. Filed under: Strollers and Gear Comments: None Related Posts:
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